Getting a toubled marriage back on track [article from Articleranks]

Getting a toubled marriage back on track

"How can I save a marriage from falling apart?" This problem comes up so often with friends talking over drinks, or from a phone conversation to a close friend that they need to confide in. While things may seem hopeless, the answers could be looking right at you. But life sometimes causes us not to see the answers for the problem.

It's like the age old saying: "You can't see the forest for the trees". This rings so true for for all marriages. Very often, we get so wrapped up in problems that we never give ourselves the opportunity to adequately look or search for the solution. We put are attention on the damage instead of the cleaning up. Being able to get through what is going on means you have to be willing to shift focus on how to resolve it. If we can focus on it long enough to study how much damage it is causing a union, then centering our attention on its resolution should get an equal amount of care.

If there is a problem in a marriage then worrying about it isn't will not get it fixed. This is where "getting in to communication" comes in. Focusing on the problem isn't going to resolve it: neither is fighting over it or hiding resentment or anger. Getting everything all out for both parties to see, and communicate, is the answer.. And the earlier this happens, the better.

The best course of action here is to set aside time when both spouses can engage in conversation without distractions: "without distractions" being the key here. If this cannot be performed without interruptions or "life" making a nuisance of it's self, then this is not a suitable time. This is something that deserves full attention. If it is dangerous enough that one party feels their marriage is in peril then that should be adequate to justify pushing all other areas to the side.

Once you have quiet, on your own, sit down and one person starts the talk. If only one person in the marriage thins that this a problem then they will be tha one that should start first and be given enough time to discuss their concerns. Perhaps a time limit could be imposed so that both sides get equal opportunity to address the concern.

It is important to remember! Getting your kinship with your spouse "back on the road to recovery" is always going to be easier than on day wondering "how to win your ex back?".

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